An Advance Care Plan for a graceful death

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Imagine watching your partner slowly disintegrate, in their place a replica who doesn’t know you, gnaws on the furniture, becomes randomly, intensely violent, and soils themselves, while offering you the rarest glimpse of the person you knew, just enough to keep you coming to visit and feeling horribly, horribly guilty that you weren’t able to keep looking after them yourself. Other times, resentment seethes through you because instead of being able to grieve and move on you have to live this twilight life too, and it silently erases your memories of the person you loved, replacing them with twisted visions of a human horror […] Read more »

Is meditation a wonder drug?

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Meditation: magic pill or path to enlightenment? Meditation will continue to intrigue the researchers for some time but the magic elixir will continue to elude them until they start looking in the right place. Mindfulness meditation (staying still and continuously returning attention to something for a period of time) is a great skill for a whole lot of reasons, not least because we tend to lead such hectic and overscheduled lives that we need to practice the delicate art of doing nothing and being aware and present. But… the delicious benefits we are promised will be hit and miss if we […] Read more »

Self-help is one big con

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Why the self-help industry is guaranteed to fail you   We are becoming increasingly obsessed with our minds. But before we get carried away with the Designer Brain Industry a word of warning… The Diet Industry. Some say it started in the 1800s, others claim our fixation on thin really kicked in after the war when rationing stopped and fashion returned but the fact is that very recently in human history we started to think, en masse, that we could do something to perfect our bodies. Wanting to look attractive is nothing new and that desire is unlikely to go away. What is […] Read more »

Intention and Action: the secret behind every outcome

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Beating myself up never got me meditating. It’s funny. I do all this research and writing on how we can shape the brain to create a more adaptive mind so I’ve known for a long time that regular meditation is good for you. But I had a huge resistance to sitting down every day and doing it. I’ve been to lots of retreats, I know how to meditate, I practice in a million other ways through the day and I teach it to kids, yet I just. didn’t. want. to. sit and do nothing. I’d long ago decided not to […] Read more »

The Balancing act – stress and renewal

The balancing act between stress and renewal   Stress and renewal are like the two ends of a see-saw. When we are stressed our body is prepared for immediate action for our survival. When we are in a renewal state our body is relaxed and can carry out maintenance functions like digestion and emotional processing that help us thrive. We were designed to deal with major stressors, and we are typically very resilient in the face of a crisis. We were not designed to deal with constant low-level stressors like rushing about getting the kids ready for school, battling peak […] Read more »

Teach children to meditate

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Why we should teach children to meditate   Why should we teach children to meditate? 1. It can change their lives 2. It is so easy 3. It is so much fun! Meditation is not just about sitting still, or even learning to focus. The point of meditation is to learn to see reality clearly. And one of the most life-changing insights we can learn from meditation is this: Our thoughts are not reality. Tonight my daughter got ‘stuck’ between her bed and the wall. She has slid into and out of that space many times and I heard in her voice […] Read more »

Stand up for a better dream

Stand up for a better dream Last night I watched someone I had known almost 16 years stand up and become somebody else. Through art we have a way to fast forward the glacial pace of evolution. We can move beyond natural laws and into the realms of dreams and deep collaboration. Which is why I cringe at the way we have crippled art by making it a competitive sport. Reality TV, eisteddfods, talent shows… as failure becomes a fixture of art we are losing the art of dreaming up better futures. We are taking what is revolutionary about art and […] Read more »

Teaching Emotional Intelligence to children

Help your child connect to their inner wisdom

Emotional Intelligence, or EQ, is one of the strongest predictors of a child’s success later in life, and I’ve had a few people asking for tips to teach it so I’m going to put some regular tips and activities up here. Questions and suggestions are welcome, we can all learn together, and please share with other parents who might be interested, it’s time we took this matter into our own hands! Learning about themselves and their world is a high priority for a young child and they are learning machines. But as they grow they get conflicting messages about themselves […] Read more »

Where to from here?

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Last night my seven year old daughter came to me long after I thought she had gone to sleep. “I am really scared that the Earth is going to tip.” “What do you mean? It’s round and spinning so it can’t really tip…” “Yes I know, but I’m worried about it tipping. About the Tipping Point.” “The Tipping Point? Do you know what that is?” “No…” “Then what about it makes you feel afraid?” “I don’t know…” “How did you hear about the Tipping Point?” “People are talking about it everywhere! That the earth is about to tip!” “You know […] Read more »

Before and After… and the Vegetables.

Our society has made an art form of dualistic thinking and Before and After is one of our most revered methods of persuasion but it is drowning in false consciousness. For one thing there is rarely a definitive before or after. We all live on fuzzy continuums that we assign meaning to in hindsight. Because what comes after (Happily Ever) After? The classic Disney happy ever after ending leaves us just after the wedding, or the first kiss or the triumphant return or vanquishing the enemy. Most of us understand that life isn’t a Disney movie and in reality life […] Read more »